Commitment in Relationships Exercise

a self survey...answer yes or no to the following questions. tally up your yes's and no's. where are you at? what does this mean to you?

selves

do you make your happiness, safety, welfare, and self respect your first priority?

is you health - mental, physical, emotional, intellectual - nurtured?

partner

have we made a vow to another, the most serious commitment a person can make publicly?

have we kept or broken that vow?

do we have a history of being integrous with lovers/spouses?

are we interested in doing the work to make our partner feel beloved?

do we consistently set aside specific time for our partner and ourselves together?

parents/grandparents

have we honored their position in your life by our actions?

are their values reflected in your own?

siblings

have we done the work to maintain a close relationship?

are we a blessing to our nieces and nephews?

do our siblings feel that they can count on us when it really matters?

children

have we committed to their lifelong care, sacrificing our own desires before their needs?

have we remained open to their flaws and accepted their wrath when hard work needs to be done?

do we have a plan for their growth and improvement along the way?

are we teaching them to understand commitment by enforcing a manner of behavior in all parts of their life?

are we teaching them by example how to be a person who keeps their word?

friends

can we be described as a "good friend"?

are we the kind of friend we are looking for in others?

do we have people we would never let down, and some we don't take quite as seriously?

have we become "over-committed" in an attempt to be liked?

how much angst do we suffer when we have let a friend down or forgotten a commitment?

community

have we accepted our role as an informed voting member and a voice in our community?

country

do we feel a sense of patriotism towards our country, a feeling of ownership, pride, buy-in? is it reflected in how we live?

planet

are we responsible inhabitants of our planet, placing the good of our environment at the forefront when making choices?